Don’t ever misunderstand it! If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away from you. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him be with you. If a man wants you he will move heaven and earth to meet his manly duties toward you. If a man wants you he will cherish you and treat you like the precious commodity you were meant to be. If a man wants you he will not only be faithful to you but will want to be faithful to you. If a man wants you he will treat those things precious to you in the same manner. If a man wants you he will respect you in word and deed. If a man wants you he accepts you for who you are not who he wants you to be.
I know someone right now is saying “wants”? Does one who “wants” really do these things or is it the man who loves? I use want for affect, having said that don’t get it twisted, it all boils down to a love that is unconditional, focused, committed, mature, and willing to be tested in order to see those fiery embers burn for a life time.
As a friend of mine always says, “He says what he means,” And I say, “he means what he says!”
The reason why that statement is so important is because too many times we as women and our well-meaning friends tend to negate what a man has said and have had some very sad conversations that go something like this: “Girl you know he didn’t mean that.” Yes, he did! Don’t get it twisted! For sanity sake you better start embracing that. If he meant something different let him be the one to correct it and not you, your mother, your girlfriend, or your co-worker.
Here are some salient points to ponder:
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Having said that, stop trying to change yourself for anyone except God. Trust God’s idea for who and what you are to be and allow God to send a man who can appreciate what God has made.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man. Always live your life to the glory of God. There are considerations we are to give for our husbands – as he is our first ministry it’s just the key word is husband. To many of us give a man (our boo, our boyfriend, our significant other) benefits that were only mean to be given to your husband.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. Time is precious and why waste it on someone who you know in your gut is not the right one.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.